Emotional Intelligence: Social Awareness and Relationship Management 2/16/17

Emotional Intelligence – The Four Skills (part 2: Social-Awareness and Relationship-Management)* Social competence is both social awareness and relationship management; understanding the moods and behaviors of others and knowing how to improve your relationships. Social awareness is the ability to read other people’s mood which requires close observation and close listening. Relationship management is the ability to use your understanding of your own emotions and of others to create successful interactions. Some people seem to do handle relationships with ease while others seem oblivious to their struggle with these skills. The goal of EI is to improve these skills regardless of your starting point. These skills can make you a more successful leader and, indeed, more successful in all your relationships.** Continuing our discussions on the connections of this subject with Army leadership doctrine, one model offered by the U.S. Army War College includes 10 Roles of a Strategic Leader including: Figurehead, Leader, and Liaison, Monitor, Disseminator, Spokesperson, Entrepreneur, Disturbance Handler, Resource Allocator, and Negotiator. (Bullis, Hill, Yuengert, The Roles of a Strategic Leader: Mintzberg’s Framework, USAWC, Carlisle, 2012). I believe many of these roles would be greatly enhanced by EI. *This is a personal reflection on chapter 3 of the book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves – I heard this speaker at an event called the Global Leadership Summit held in late summer each year. The next summit will be Aug 10-11 at 600 locations nationwide. ** For a religious thought on this reflection you may consider Proverbs 14:30 or for a spiritual one consult www.belief.net (Search for the term mindfulness) I also invite comment on my article for the post newspaper from this week at this link. http://www.fkgoldstandard.com/content/instead-becoming-angry-after-trauma-use-it-become-better-person