Leaders and Emotional Intelligence: Self-awareness and Self-management 2/15/17

Emotional Intelligence – The Four Skills (part 1: Self-Awareness and Self-Management)* Personal competence is both self-awareness and self-management; aware of, and in control of, your emotions. Social competence is both social awareness and relationship management; understanding the moods and behaviors of others and knowing how to improve your relationships. This requires reflection on your own emotions in order to understand their origin. Understanding yourself is the foundation to all other emotional intelligence skills. People with poor self-awareness often come across as self-centered or even toxic. Knowing yourself, strengths and weaknesses, can help you keep your composure when everyone else is losing theirs. Self-management is applying that ability to make good choices despite circumstances; not just in the moment but over time. Learning and applying these skills will make you a more successful leader but also has the benefit of making you a happier person.** Next week, in part 2, we will cover the rest of chapter 3, social awareness and relationship management. Continuing our discussions on the connections of this subject with Army leadership doctrine the new ADRP 6-22, out in draft for Army wide staffing, includes a paragraph on Emotional Factors (read 5-15 to 5-18). This is a huge improvement over the current version but does not begin to cover this subject. Please continue to offer input. *This is a personal reflection on chapter 3 of the book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves – I heard this speaker at an event called the Global Leadership Summit held in late summer each year. The next summit will be Aug 10-11 at 600 locations nationwide. ** For a religious thought on this reflection you may consider Romans 12:3 or for a spiritual one consult www.belief.net (Search for the term mindfulness)